Sunday, December 26, 2010

I make the most of all that comes and the least of all that goes. ~ Sara Teasdale

'Tis the morning after Christmas and all thru the house everyone is sleeping except me. It's taking me forever to get over a bronchial cold bug that's been hanging on for over a week now and when I woke up around 1 am I felt that ominous tickle in my throat that meant a coughing jag was coming up so I slipped out of bed and came out here to the computer. No need to interfere with Dear Hubby's sleep. It's one of those nites where you wake up completely awake and know sleep is going to elude you until morning. I used to lay there and toss and turn, but I learned years ago not to fight it. I just get up and read or write on here. I actually end up being less tired than if I toss restlessly the rest of the nite.

Christmas....what can I say about our last one here? Not one of our more stellar celebrations. We enjoyed our time with our kids and grandkids and spent most of the day over at our son's house. Late in the morning we went to Dear Hubby's mother's for his family get together. We received some great news.....our son's lifelong best friend texted him during the morning to let him know that that their new daughter was being born....a Christmas baby! Thrilling news! And when I came on Facebook a little while ago there were two notifications that Kealalehua had arrived safely and she and mom are doing great. Isn't there something so thrilling about a new life, even when it's not directly related to you? Tho we've known her daddy forever...so she almost feels like ours. Sad news, too....a close family member has a recurrence of cancer and the prognosis isn't good. And of course it was our last Christmas in Oregon.


I can't begin to tell you what a huge upheaval this move is causing in all our lives, how our grandsons are affected. I can't tell you how hard it is to say goodbye to everyone, knowing that some of them I may never see again. But the future looks so bright, too....if only we could get going and get started on it. That's the hardest part, this limbo land we're stuck in at the moment. But even that is starting to move along. Later this morning my daughter and I are going to tackle her room, sorting and purging and getting bags ready for the Goodwill. Next weekend will be nothing but purging and packing as well. And the weekend after that my daughter-in-law and I are flying to Detroit to spend a few days looking over Livonia and house hunting. After that....only a few more weeks and we should be setting out on our odyssey.

This is all so surreal.

Saturday, December 11, 2010

Peace - that was the other name for home. ~ Kathleen Norris

Is this our future home? Is this where Dear Hubby will hang up his hat at the end of the day, whose windows I'll look out? A street I'll begin to think of as 'familiar'? Grass he'll cut? Rooms I'll decorate? We sure like it, is all I can say. But only the good Lord knows the answers to all those questions.





I put in an inquiry on this house. This morning I got a responsive email from a gentleman who's been selling real estate in the Livonia area for 30 years. He asked what our requirements are. This is what I wrote back to him:





Since my husband and I have raised our family and aren't interested in keeping up with the Joneses, we're pretty modest in our needs at this stage in life. We would like to have a 3 bedroom home, using one as a den/office and one for a guest room as we'll probably have visitors from out of state. A living room. Not necessarily a formal dining room, but a nice eating area. A bright kitchen.....I love windows with lots of light in the kitchen and the living room areas! 2 bathrooms would be nice. A garage and finished basement would be nice. A fireplace or wood stove would be nice! A fenced back yard isn't a total requirement but it would be lovely to have as well, since I'll continue doing the day care for my grandsons in Michigan, too. We don't need a huge lot....here in Portland we live in an older urban neighborhood where we can basically reach out and touch our neighbors' houses....the lots are narrow but fairly deep so we have a nice little yard out back. The dimensions on our lot are 45'x90'. We would like a LITTLE more room between houses, tho we have wonderful neighbors and have lived here peacefully with them for almost 30 years! As to a price range....we have lived in our home for 28 years. It's an old 1912 Craftsman bungalow. Our current payment with tax and insurance figured in to it is around $$$$$$ per month. Because this is a very comfortable mortgage for us, we'd like to keep it around the same amount back there. We don't care if it's new construction or old, tho we do like older homes. We're not "fancy-schmancy". All we ask is that it's in decent shape, not a fixer-upper, and the basics are updated...furnace, roof, stuff of that nature. I love to garden so landscaping isn't important...I'll be changing that to what I like. If we can find a place with the basic appliances and washer/dryer included, that'd be great....then we won't have to drag ours across the country. We like trees. A neighborhood that's quiet. How's that to get you started out?



I guess what I'm trying to tell him is we want a home.

Thursday, December 9, 2010

Why does it take a minute to say hello and forever to say goodbye? ~ Author Unknown



Michigan. What do I know about Michigan? I know how to pronounce it. I know it's in the eastern part of the upper midwest, that outside of its southern border it's pretty much surrounded by Great Lakes. Detroit's there. Its capitol is Lansing. My dear blog friend Judy lives in the Grand Rapids area, on the western side of it. It's one of the 50 states.


But, beyond that....not much. At least, not much until about a month ago. That's when my son approached me and told me he'd been offered a huge promotion at work. The only drawback would be moving to Livonia, Michigan, which is where a new warehouse facility the company he works for is located. He was being offered the position of plant manager. And I could tell it was something he really, really wanted to accept. When it was offered to him he told his boss the only obstacle in the way was having to take the grandboys away from me, and me from them. They've been with me from the time each of them was a month old. They're with me about 55 hours per week. Those of you who've been reading my blog for a long time know how deeply bonded the grandboys and I are. I know it would be devastating to no longer have them a part of my daily life, and I'm an adult. I can't imagine how it would affect two little boys.


My son's boss is someone we've known for around 30 years, give or take a few. Dear Hubby has done occasional odd-job work for him. Before the grandboys came along I did quite a bit of free lance data entry for him. He knows where our son's hard work ethics have come from. He knows what kind of people we are. Besides hard working, we're dependable. Trustworthy. People of our word. So...he counter-offered. He asked our son, "If I offer your dad a job back there, do you think he'd move, too?" Our son told him he'd ask. He did, and at first Dear Hubby was adamantly opposed to the idea. He'd worked at his current job for almost 32 years, 16 of them as the Supervisor. He had his seniority, his vacation time, excellent benefits. No way was he going to give all that up! But the little seed was planted. A few days later our son's boss called....would Dear Hubby and I meet him for breakfast that Saturday to talk it all over? Dear Hubby said sure, and he and I did a lot of praying about it that week. We made a decision between the two of us that if thus and thus was offered, he'd take the job. As we sat there in the restaurant and talked with the boss, it was made clear to us what decision to make.

We are all moving to Michigan, our adult daughter, too. She'll have a job there as well. The target date for the move is around the end of January, the first part of February. I have 28 years' worth of living in this house to sort thru, purge, and pack. We'll be moving in the dead of winter. Dear Hubby wants to drive across from here in Portland to Livonia, almost 2400 miles. I am willing to do it, too, if the weather isn't too drastic. I want to see America.

It was in 1946 when my newlywed parents packed up everything they owned into my dad's car and set out across America, only that time it was in the opposite direction, from Nashua, New Hampshire, to Olympia, Washington. My mom was 18, my dad was 24. He was a WWII veteran, just back from serving in England. Housing and jobs were hard to come by on the east coast. One of my grandfathers told them if they'd come out to Washington State he could guarantee them jobs and a place of their own. So out they came. They settled eventually in Grays Harbor County, where my three brothers and I were born. My mother never returned home to see family until July 1968...22 years without ever seeing her mother. In those days handwritten letters were about the only way you could communicate. No modern techie gadgets. Long distance telephone rates were exorbitant, a luxury. And now, 64 years later, I'm retracing their paths. Also launching out into the great unknown.


I could be scared to death. I could be anxious and uncertain. I could be full of doubts and second thoughts. But I'm not. None of those. What I do have is a deep-settled peace in my heart. You see, when all of this first came into the picture, we began to pray. We asked friends and family to pray with us. We asked God to open the windows wide if it was His will, to slam the doors firmly shut in our faces if it wasn't. And every little detail, every question that has come up has been answered in such marvelous ways. The windows have been flung so widely open it's a wonder we haven't fallen thru them all. It is God's will and we know it.


And that is why I've been away. And why I might not be around much in the ensuing month or so. I'll be busy sorting and packing and purging. I'll be taking many trips down memory lane along the way, in preparation. I'll shed more than a few tears. I'll say goodbye to many beloved friends and family members. Some I will never see again in this lifetime, I'm sure. I will try to find time to climb to the top of Mt. Tabor once more, maybe on my birthday. I would like to go see the Pacific Ocean one more time. It is my mother's eternal resting place. I am going to die a thousand deaths, saying goodbye to my best friend Lizzee. I'll be leaving her the same month I met her, 44 years ago. And my baby brother. Kids who grew up with my kids, who I consider kids of my own. And as I look at my house one more time, as we drive away down the street, my heart will break.

But changes are coming, and changes are good.