Wednesday, June 29, 2011
Our wedding was many years ago. The celebration continues to this day. ~ Gene Perret
So I have almost two weeks until he arrives home again. He's on a week's vacation and is attending an old-fashioned Camp Meeting at our church in Portland. He'll also be visiting his mom and his sisters and their families. And then he'll be driving a new vehicle cross-country for the company he works for. He'll be one busy man. This is the longest amount of time we'll be apart in 37 years of marriage.
I was looking up marriage quotes for my title. The vast majority were sarcastic and snarky. What a pessimistic and negative outlook people have towards matrimony. I heard in passing on the news a week or two ago where studies show only 40% of couples who live together are married. If everyone goes in to marriage with the thought in the back of their minds "If I don't like it, I'm leaving!" of course it's not going to succeed. If a person listens...truly listens...to the words of their marriage vows they'll realize even those don't say "Happily ever after". It's a lifetime commitment for richer, for poorer; in sickness and in health till death do us part. It doesn't promise fireworks and wealth and sexual bliss. There's a lot of living that goes on between "I do" and goodbye forever. There are days where everything your spouse does irritates the living daylights out of you. And other days where you fall in love all over again. There are moments where you sit and wonder how you're ever going to make ends meet. And moments where you sit and share a cup of coffee out on the porch on a peaceful summer evening. It's not something you sit back and take for granted. At least, you shouldn't. No...a good marriage is something worth its weight in gold. Especially in this day and age, it's something precious, something worth treasuring. Not to say it doesn't take work, but we have found in our many years together that communication is the 'cement' in keeping the 'structure' sound and firm. And compromise. Selfishness does not make a happy union.
With that said...and where it came from at 4:30 in the morning I have no clue...I'll keep the home fires burning the next couple of weeks. And wander around like half of me is missing. Because half of me is.