This morning I was reading the post of a young friend of mine on Facebook. She'd received some Final Notices concerning medical bills for her children she thought had been paid by her medical insurance a couple of months ago. She spoke of how stressed she was. I could so relate to her situation and her feelings.
Once upon a time, I was a young mother facing a mountain of medical bills. And we didn't have medical insurance at the time. I had given birth to my 12-pound son by emergency c-section. He and I were in the hospital for almost a week. There were the room costs, the nursery costs, the operating room costs, the anesthesiologist bill, my doctor bill. Bills, bills, bills. Dear Hubby was the sole breadwinner and made less than $5 per hour. We had a two-year-old daughter. We were young, desperate, and very scared.
Luckily a friend of ours worked at the small town hospital where I'd given birth. She was able to provide us with some paperwork to fill out to help us with the hospital bill, as long as we qualified. Boy, did we ever qualify! On top of everything else, our son had picked up staph infection in the hospital and was a very sick little baby. The hospital 'forgave' us our entire bill.
Which left us with all the doctor and anesthesiologist bills.
As Christians we felt compelled to pay off those bills, even tho the amounts seemed astronomical, especially my doctor's. We barely had two nickels to rub together but I sat down and wrote letters to the anesthesiologist's and my doctor's business offices, telling them we had no medical insurance but we would pay every penny owed to them because we were Christians, no matter how long it took. This was back in 1978. The anesthesiologist's amount was something like $275 and we got that paid off fairly quickly...within a year, I believe. The doctor bill was closer to $1000. Some months I was able to send $5, some months $50...$10 here, $20 there. Slowly, slowly it dwindled down. And finally I came to the point where I wrote out the final check and sent it off. Our son was almost 5 at the time, and we'd moved from that town, eventually landing in Portland where we lived until earlier this year. As we moved, I could've easily not sent my forwarding address to them. I could've skipped town and never paid off that debt. But pride and a strong sense of right versus wrong kept me true to my word. It gave me a great sense of satisfaction, dropping that envelope into the mailbox.
The funny thing is, a week or so later I got a card from my doctor's office in the small town. A Thank You card, from the office manager. She wrote and told me how the whole office had been aware of what a struggle it had been for us to pay off that bill. And when they received the final payment, how good it made them feel. She said it restored their faith in people, a person who actually kept their word and did such a thing. She said it didn't happen like that very often. She wished us the best, on all their behalf.
I sat and stared at that card in amazement.
You see, we go about our lives making simple decisions, to do what's right. And we go about our business and faithfully send off that money, figuring it's just going into the doctor's bank account and the amount due is a little less each time the bill shows up regularly in the mail month in, month out. You have no idea what kind of an impression something that seems so mundane to you such as paying a bill might be making on someone else. An entire doctor's office, for instance.
And then you sit there with the proof of what it has meant to those people held in your hand. And you feel very humbled, because it is a testimony to them what God has done for you in your life. Made you honest. Made you a person of your word.
And 33 years later, it is a memory that is still very precious to me.
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Tuesday, December 13, 2011
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
He is a wise man who does not grieve for the things which he has not, but rejoices for those which he has. ~ Epictetus
A big crock pot full of homemade stew...what better meal on a cold, blustery, and now very rainy day! Dear Hubby and I ate a fairly early dinner. We'll be on our way to the airport soon to pick up our son and his wife. They flew to Portland on Friday and had a very whirlwind trip filled to the brim with visiting family and friends and attending the company's annual Christmas luncheon that was held on Saturday afternoon. My son wrote on Facebook earlier that they had a great time seeing everyone but he couldn't wait to get home! Well, I can't wait until they land safely on the ground again. I never rest easy when loved ones are up in the air. When my daughter-in-law and I came to Detroit last January to do some house hunting it was the first time I'd flown since 1974. She likes flying but isn't a fan of turbulence so when we hit some going over the Rockies I just smiled at her and said, "Just rocking in the arms of Jesus, Casey!" That got a smile out of her.
I am not one to get all gungho when it comes to the holidays. Early in my marriage they became so stressful trying to please everyone and not pleasing anyone that it truly ruined the joy and beauty of the Christmas season for me. For years it was just something to endure and get thru every year. But as our grandsons came along and I began seeing Christmas again thru their eyes it's gradually softened my heart again. I went and did a little shopping yesterday. I picked up a 4-foot artificial tree that I'm going to place in the center of our big picture window. I'd had a small fiber optic one last year that I'm giving to our daughter for her first Christmas in her apartment...very pretty, and one she won't have to worry about causing a fire. When we purged and got rid of so much stuff last year I almost tossed out my box of Christmas decorations, thinking I'd probably have the fiber optic tree forevermore. I even stood there with the box in my hands for a few moments, in the valley of indecision, and my daughter who happened to be with me said, "Don't, Mom. Keep them." I had already gone thru the box a few years beforehand, giving the kids whatever ornaments they wanted to keep. It's funny....you hold on to things forever, thinking your kids will want everything. But when it came down to decision time, I think they both took each an ornament or two and that was it. Ornaments that had a great amount of sentimental value to them. That was what was important in their choices.
When I purged thru 28 years of stuff from living in our old house...actually, 36 years of married 'stuff'...I really cleaned house. I'd been dragging things along since I'd left my hometown at the age of almost 13. Things I thought maybe my daughter might like someday....doll furniture both my grandfathers had made for me...that ended up never being played with. Just sitting in dark corners of the basement gathering dust. You know what I did? I either donated it or threw it all away. About 5 drop boxes full. Well, one big drop box outside along the curb that I'd fill to the brim and over, only to go out in the morning to find 'pickers' had basically cleaned it out. So...I'd fill it again. Do you know, it wasn't hard. It was liberating. It was so nice to just clean house. When we packed up the big semi that moved both our household and our son's 2/3 of the way across America, whatever we had of our things were those that meant something, truly. Sentimental value. Not just....things.
So...I know what shelf in the basement that box with the ornaments is stored on. I think the day after Thanksgiving I'm going to go find it and bring it upstairs. I'm going to assemble my little Christmas tree and hang those ornaments on there. And I'm going to sit down after I plug in the lights. And I'm going to savor the moment.
I am not one to get all gungho when it comes to the holidays. Early in my marriage they became so stressful trying to please everyone and not pleasing anyone that it truly ruined the joy and beauty of the Christmas season for me. For years it was just something to endure and get thru every year. But as our grandsons came along and I began seeing Christmas again thru their eyes it's gradually softened my heart again. I went and did a little shopping yesterday. I picked up a 4-foot artificial tree that I'm going to place in the center of our big picture window. I'd had a small fiber optic one last year that I'm giving to our daughter for her first Christmas in her apartment...very pretty, and one she won't have to worry about causing a fire. When we purged and got rid of so much stuff last year I almost tossed out my box of Christmas decorations, thinking I'd probably have the fiber optic tree forevermore. I even stood there with the box in my hands for a few moments, in the valley of indecision, and my daughter who happened to be with me said, "Don't, Mom. Keep them." I had already gone thru the box a few years beforehand, giving the kids whatever ornaments they wanted to keep. It's funny....you hold on to things forever, thinking your kids will want everything. But when it came down to decision time, I think they both took each an ornament or two and that was it. Ornaments that had a great amount of sentimental value to them. That was what was important in their choices.
When I purged thru 28 years of stuff from living in our old house...actually, 36 years of married 'stuff'...I really cleaned house. I'd been dragging things along since I'd left my hometown at the age of almost 13. Things I thought maybe my daughter might like someday....doll furniture both my grandfathers had made for me...that ended up never being played with. Just sitting in dark corners of the basement gathering dust. You know what I did? I either donated it or threw it all away. About 5 drop boxes full. Well, one big drop box outside along the curb that I'd fill to the brim and over, only to go out in the morning to find 'pickers' had basically cleaned it out. So...I'd fill it again. Do you know, it wasn't hard. It was liberating. It was so nice to just clean house. When we packed up the big semi that moved both our household and our son's 2/3 of the way across America, whatever we had of our things were those that meant something, truly. Sentimental value. Not just....things.
So...I know what shelf in the basement that box with the ornaments is stored on. I think the day after Thanksgiving I'm going to go find it and bring it upstairs. I'm going to assemble my little Christmas tree and hang those ornaments on there. And I'm going to sit down after I plug in the lights. And I'm going to savor the moment.
Friday, November 12, 2010
Thursday, September 16, 2010
We're captive on the carousel of time; we can't return we can only look behind. ~ Joni Mitchell
Last week I was on vacation and one of the things I did, besides the mundane chores of painting the front porch steps and sorting/donating a bunch of stuff cluttering the basement, I spent a day with my younger brother. He took me out to lunch at a Mexican restaurant in downtown Vancouver and on the way back to his home we decided to take a drive thru our old neighborhood. To our surprise, 'our' house was up for sale, with an information box with flyers inside tacked on to the "For Sale" post. If anyone was home they'd had no idea who we were so I jumped out of my brother's Aston Martin -- a waaaaaaaaaaaaay cool car, by the way -- to grab a flyer. Since the time period we both lived there, in the late 1960s-1970s, a whole lot of remodeling has gone on and even tho the basic floor plan is the same it doesn't look anything like it did when we were teens. It's gorgeous. The windows to the right of the front door belong to what used to be my bedroom. It's since been converted to a home office with beautiful French doors. The upstairs, which used to be an unfinished attic, is now a huge master bedroom suite with a sitting area in the front gable. The kitchen is to die for. Sigh......if only my parents had been blessed with the money to update it! When they bought it in 1968 they paid something like $11,900 for it. Today it is selling for $239,900. Whoa. One thing it has going for it is it's located in a neighborhood near downtown that is being revitalized, with lots of old bungalow and tudor and Craftsmen homes that have been purchased and revamped. As beautiful as it is I wouldn't want to live there again. Too many bad memories. I suppose you can go home again, but it isn't always a wise choice to do so.You haven't experienced real life until you've volunteered in a preschool with 15 rambunctious, energetic, inquisitive, precocious, adorable 4-year-olds. What a hoot! Cooper and I spent the morning yesterday with Dylan and his classmates and I can't remember the last time 3 hours have passed so quickly. We played out on the playground, danced/wiggled/jiggled to music, played "What's Your Name" as we tossed a beanbag around the circle, had snack time, craft time, play time, story time. I took blocks and built a huge roadway for the little boys to drive their cars and trucks on. I played doll house with Ava. Ezra and Sumalee followed me around like shadows. I helped several go potty. I didn't have time to feel like the 'odd man out' being the only Grandma there amongst 3 younger mothers...I was too busy! Tho I did have a nice conversation during story time with one of the mothers as she and I swept up the sand around the sand table. I told her what a wonderful experience it is for both Dylan and Cooper to have this exposure to other kids because with being a stay-at-home Grandma I don't really have a network of friends with little ones to spend time with. She told me that she doesn't, either, and with her little boy James heading off for kindergarten next year she was becoming very concerned about him being too isolated. So many mothers work now. Besides James she also has a little one who is Cooper's age...so maybe on one of their 'off' days from school I'll invite her over so the four of them can play together.
Each little phase of the grandboys' childhood is so bittersweet. I didn't have the time or take the time when I was a young parent to realize that, for most of us, one time around the parenthood circuit is the only one we get. We're too tired, too stressed, too young ourselves to know how much we should savor each moment as we're living it. But, oh, how time and age gives us such a different perspective! This time I know it's the last time for me. I don't necessarily want to stop time and keep them little forever, but there are days I wish it would slow down a little bit! But, no...Time waits for no one.
Wednesday, July 7, 2010
The more help a man has in his garden, the less it belongs to him. ~ William M. Davies

Today it's supposed to be in the upper 90s. Yesterday's high was 84. The day before that: 60. We have definitely...finally...jumped in to summer. It's been a long time since we've had such a long-lasting cool, rainy summer. Our 'saving grace', so to speak, is that a dry, warm wind is blowing, too, keeping the stickiness away. Not that we often have high humidity here in the Pacific Northwest, but anything over 60% is considered kind of uncomfortable. My sympathies go out to the rest of the nation sweltering in 90+ degree heat with around 90% humidity. How on earth do you people do it?! I spent one July in New England in 1968 that was one of the hottest on record up to that time and I have never been so miserable in my life. Or so sunburned after a day at the beach. A day on the Pacific coast...at least up here in Oregon and Washington...is nothing like a day on the Atlantic.
I've had a few people ask for pictures of my yard. I'm going to see if I can use my daughter's phone to snap a few to post. She can then email them to me and I can put them on here. Technology amazes me. And I used to think Polaroid cameras were pretty slick.
The grandboys and I will be spending most of the day at the pool today...the kiddie pool in the back yard, that is. They 'helped' me mow the white clover blossoms yesterday in preparation for today...don't want tender little feet running around and stepping on bees. I can't imagine what kind of picture we must've made with the boys on either side of me pushing that old hand mower around...my daughter sure seemed to get a good chuckle out of it. We had planned on getting the pool ready yesterday but the boys took a long nap. Instead, they took their child-sized shovels and shoveled mown grass - from Dear Hubby's mowing with the power mower - off the compost pile in to a yard debris bag. That kept them busy and happy for the hour or so before their dad picked them up. That, and playing whiffle ball.
I got this photo of Scarlet Sage off the internet. I have a huge bush of it and it's in full glorious bloom right now. It's irresistible to hummingbirds. The other day when Dear Hubby was out back shooting targets with his longbow a hummingbird came along and perched atop the tip of his bow! We seem to get more and more of them every year.
A quiet week, a nice week. We'll probably go on our walk early this morning before the heat arrives. Burgers on the grill tonite. Life doesn't get much sweeter than this.
Tuesday, April 13, 2010
Friday, April 9, 2010
Begin at the beginning and go on till you come to the end; then stop. ~ Lewis Carrol
Dear Moi...
Are you really here? Are you really writing? More than just a few-lined filler to post in otherwise empty space? Is it Friday evening? Or are you dreaming this like you dreamt during your short-lived nap this afternoon, that it was already Saturday and you were out walking in the sunshine? Sunshine? What's sunshine?
Ever hopeful,
Point-me-in-the-right-direction-and-I-might-reach-my-destination-but-then-again-I-might-not
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Dear Moi...
It's an age-old question: Why do you buy 'real' toys? Or maybe I should say, why do you buy expensive toys? Children don't know the value of money. Be thankful most of what you have overflowing from your toy bins are things you've picked up in thrift stores for next-to-nothing. Why? Because, as of today, the grandboys' favorite toys are a couple of bags of colored dinosaurs you picked up at Fred Meyer for $2.99 each that they put in to their little plastic garbage cans and fill and empty into their toy garbage trucks all day long; two extender tubes from the vacuum cleaner they use as telescopes and imaginary ice cream cone makers...the choices are endless -- "Would you eat a gravy ice cream cone?" "Ewwwwwwwwww!" "How about pumpernickel ice cream?" "Ewwwwwwwwww!" See what I mean?
Sincerely,
On-my-budget-they'll-never-go-to-Disneyland-but-that's-ok-they're-still-having-the-time-of-their-lives
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Dear Moi...
Would you even know what to do to keep a little granddaughter occupied if you had one? When my neighbor Sharon brought her 2 1/2 year old granddaughter Lily over to visit today, they caught us right in the middle of playing "Alvin". "Alvin" is the name the boys have given to our yard debris collector. Our real human yard debris collector. The game of "Alvin" consists of the boys taking two of their toy-sized garbage cans and placing every toy they have here, no matter what size it is, and putting it 'in' the can and handing it to me. It originally started out where it was small toys only that I would dump into the green recycling truck and say, "And here's some more, Alvin". Well, of course they thought that was hilarious and now it's an elaborate game that includes every. toy. in. the. bins. The nice thing is, they do help me pick it up. But! The mountain of toys is...well...a bit overwhelming. It takes up the entire middle of the living room and is about 3 feet high. So when Lily and Sharon came in, we'd just finished putting the last toy on the pile. Lily stood there in wide-eyed wonder sucking on her fingers. I don't know whether she wanted to stay or run. Sharon said, "Boy, Kris...that's a LOT of toys". I know. But every time I try to purge it seems I think "Well, they could use this for this" or "use that for that". The only toys really gone now are the baby toys.
In all honesty,
I'm-ducking-my-head-in-embarrassment-because-I-know-I'm-hopelessly-over-indulgent-but-that-is-a-grandma's-right-so-there
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Dear Moi...
I am still gobsmacked (I love that word and use it whenever I can) by what happened to us at Little Caesar's pizza the other day. We ordered a cheese pizza and when the employee took my debit card from Dylan -- Dylan likes to pay and 'buy' my pizza -- to slide it thru the machine...nothing happened. He slid it again. And again. Ditto. Zilch. A much younger woman and her little girl had come in the door behind us and was watching it all transpire. There was no internet connection on either of the debit/credit machines. Uh oh. I'd have to pay cash if I wanted to buy a pizza. I looked in my wallet. I'm notorious for never carrying cash and, true to form...actually, better than usual!...I had $2! But $2 wasn't going to pay for it. So as Dylan stood there saying, "Grandma, I really wanted a cheese pizza!" the young mother had gone up to the other employee to pay for her order. With cash. And the next thing I know, the other employee is handing me a pizza, too, and telling me, "Here's a cheese pizza for you!" "No, no!" I told him. "I can't pay for it! I don't have cash!" And he nodded at the young mother and said, "I know, but she does and she just bought you this pizza." I stood there and gaped for a full 10 seconds or so, then told her, "You didn't have to do that! My goodness! How kind of you!" And she smiled and said, "They had to get their pizza. They're kids and I couldn't let them be disappointed." By that time, the employees were smiling, too, and I'm flabberghasted and thanking her all over the place! And as she went out the door I said, "I'm going to write about you in my blog tonite!" But never found time to sit down and do it justice until now.
With a very grateful heart,
A-grandma-who-could've-had-a-disaster-on-her-hands-if-it-hadn't-been-for-the-kindness-of-a-stranger-and-I-know-the-good-Lord-must've-blessed-you-the-rest-of-the-day-for-it-lovely-lady
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Dear Moi...
Isn't it wonderful to find handymen who still take pride in their work and do an excellent job? Who are honest and show up when they tell you they're going to show up? Who finish the job? Aren't you glad you found Andres? Aren't you glad you paid him $40 more than what he originally charged you, just to say an extra thank you for a job well done? And you'll recommend him to anyone in the Portland area who needs an odd job done like putting up a bit of fence and gate, won't you? And didn't it warm your heart that he put the latch up high enough and with a hole in it where you can padlock it shut to keep the grandboys safe inside?
With great appreciation,
A satisfied customer
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Dear Moi....
Do you realize every letter you've written to yourself tonite has referred to the grandboys in one way or another? Do you care?
Love,
These-are-my-babies-and-this-is-my-blog-and-if-you-don't-like-it-oh-well-put-a-cork-in-it-like-I-tell-Cooper
Thursday, March 25, 2010
Childhood is the most beautiful of all Life's seasons. ~ Author Unknown
We have two new residents, actually, in our home. Not one goldfish but two. Our neighbor Azizollah who was born in Iran has been celebrating his New Year and goldfish in his culture signify Life. He and his wife had bought a couple and now that the New Year is over they offered to give them to the grandboys, as they do a lot of traveling and figured the fish needed a home where someone would care for them.Care for them?! Oh, yeah.
It's a wonder these two little fishies have survived since they showed up on the scene yesterday afternoon, they have been shown so much love and attention. If one grandboy's face hasn't been peering down into the bowl with his nose practically touching the water, the other one has. I had the bowl on the table yesterday and Dylan and Cooper spent the rest of their day here getting 'acquainted'. They named them Spot and HoHo and showed their new buddies their favorite toys. Dylan sang "The Alphabet Song" to them. He'd go over periodically and ask, "Hey, HoHo Spot...how you doing?" When we went for a late afternoon walk over to the fire station Dylan hollered to Papa who was downstairs in his den, "Papa! Will you keep an eye on HoHo Spot and make sure they're doing ok?" Of course Papa said yes. And the interest hasn't waned at all today. Today they got to feed them.
Oh...and which one is Spot and which one is HoHo? The one with spots is HoHo. The pure gold one is Spot.
It makes sense to a 4-year-old.
Monday, February 22, 2010
Hey, babe...take a walk on the wild side....

I'm waiting for the day someone stops me on the street or in the aisle of the grocery store as I'm struggling to maneuver my double stroller around too-sharp corners and asks, "Hey, are you that MissKris the blogger who's always out walking her grandsons?" So far, that fame has eluded me. But today as I came in thru the doors at the library loaded down with my two grandsons and about $70 worth of stuff I'd bought at Walmart crammed in to the basket area underneath I heard a voice say, "Well, hi there!" and I looked over to see a smiling young man grinning at me from ear to ear. I didn't know him from Adam. But he sure seemed to know me so I smiled and said, "Hello!" back. "Boy, you sure do get around!" he told me, and then I realized it was Story Time this morning and he was obviously there with one -- two? three? - of the little ones for that. He was a dad. And where he's ever spotted me walking around the area I don't know but he sure seemed to feel like he knew me! This is not the only time I've had this happen. A while back I had a lady lean out of her van window and yell at me, "I see you walking everywhere!" And of course all the library and store workers know who we are. And of course the fire fighters at the local fire station call us their 'regulars' whenever they have any new guy on board.
Yup, it's that time of year again.
After being stuck inside since around Halloween, I would say, because of inclement weather, colds, flu...whatever...it is almost Spring!!!!!
Which means the grandboys and I are back with a vengeance.
Yessssssssssssss!
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