Saturday, October 22, 2011

Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate. ~ Barnett R. Brickner

I've never been a leader.  And yet I've never been a follower, either.  I've always forged my own path and never asked anyone along unless they choose to.    In my life I have a man who made that choice.  Dear Hubby's been with me for 37 years but for us it's been a road we've tread side-by-side.  No "boss".  No "subordinate".  Just a couple of people who've given living life its best shot.  And sometimes his ideas have been the better solution.  And sometimes mine.  Most often we come to agreements or compromises and it has worked very well for us.

What is marriage?

Well, it's kind of like taking a blender. First you add a huge dose of love.  Then you add to that another good helping of patience.  Then a cup or two...or ten, depending on the situation...of communication.  Those are the basic ingredients.  You push the button and whirl those around a bit, open the lid, and check it out.  Now it's time to add some spices.  Not too much, not too little...enough to make it just right.  You sprinkle it with tear drops, but only enough of those to help share the heartaches that come along.  Oh, and laughter...don't forget the laughter!!!  That will see you thru anything and help lift the load when the burdens of life get to be too heavy.  Then add a healthy portion of respect.  Another push of the button and then pour it out and store it in a safe place.  And when you're feeling dry and a little thirsty, take a drink from it and refresh yourselves.


LC said...

How did anyone stay married before blenders. Just kidding! Those ingrdients work just as well with an old-fashioned mixing bowl and spoon! Good post!

Jaggy said...

I think marriage makes me feel like I'm in a blender sometimes. Or maybe under one of those "slap 'n' chop" thingies.

Definitely prefer the flat-calm and boring cookie-sheet days. :)