Thursday, September 22, 2011

Wherever there is a human being, there is an opportunity for a kindness. ~ Seneca

Today was our neighbor Bob's 90th birthday.  It was garbage day as well on our street.  But I'd made plans to spend most of the day with my daughter to celebrate her birthday, which is also today.  She and I spent several hours browsing thru thrift stores and this antique mall a coworker had told her about not long ago.  Then we had a nice leisurely lunch at a restaurant.  I dropped her off at her apartment and headed home.

When I pulled up to my house, Grandma Ursula's car was parked at the curb.  She'd brought Cooper over so he could watch the garbage trucks and put our can and recycling bins back for us near the garage when they were done.  They were just getting ready to leave.  I had a tiny bakery cake I'd picked up for Bob's birthday in the refrigerator, as well as a birthday card, so I told Ursula I'd run it over to his house with Cooper quickly before they left.  Cooper was so excited!  And then we realized Bob's garage door was open and his car was gone.  Oh dear.  Well, we weren't foiled yet.  I told Cooper we'd go over and put it near his back door so he'd be sure to find it when he got home, which we did.  "Do you think Bob will find it?  I hope he has a happy birthday, Grandma!"    I hurried him back over to Ursula so they could get on their way...it was almost time to pick Dylan up from Kindergarten.

I got to thinking about how I'd signed the card...from our family.  I'd thought for sure we'd see Bob face-to-face and I realized he probably wouldn't figure out who it was from with just our family name on it.  So I grabbed a pen and went over to his house, thinking I'd put Dylan and Cooper's names on there too.  But when I turned the corner at the back of the house, the cake and card were gone!  Hmmmmmm....so I turned to leave and I heard a voice call out to me from the sun porch, "Hey there!" and Bob opened the screen door, a big smile on his face.  "Was that from you?  How did you know it was my birthday?" he asked.  I said, "Well, you'd told me a long time ago it was on this day and I never forgot because this is my daughter's birthday as well!  We couldn't let yours go by without wishing you a Happy Birthday too!"  "Well, that is so nice!"  he beamed.  "Thanks a million, you guys!"

Truth be told, I think I felt a lot more blessed on his birthday than he did.
This was our sky not too long ago on a summer evening.  Thunder was booming and lightning was flashing and not long after I took this the heavens really became violent and we 'greenhorn' former Pacific Northwesterners wondered if we were in for our first tornado.  But no...just another amazing display of  a typical summer storm.  We loved the summer storms.  I think we've seen the end of them until next year, but this land is full of surprises so maybe not.  Time will tell.  Dear Hubby asks just about everyone we meet on our meandering drives around this part of the country if they've lived here all their lives  --  "Yes" --  and "Have you ever seen a tornado?"  --  "No."  --  so you'd think we'd sit back and get a little blase` about it ourselves.  But not quite yet.


Well, my vacation has been a success as far as getting all the little piddling chores I'd had hovering in the back of my mind out of the way.  I painted.  I caulked.  I refurbished furniture.  I even managed to sit down and read a couple of books.  Today is my daughter's 35th birthday and I'm going over to her apartment to pick her up and take her out to lunch.  Then we're going thrift store browsing to see if we can find some decor items for her new place.  She's seen all the stuff I've dragged home thru the years and I guess she ended up even liking some of it, so she's hoping to find some treasures as well.  Take a look at this.  My blog-friend-and-almost-next-door-neighbor-give-or-take-120-miles-away-in-Grand-Rapids-who-I-am-dying-to-meet-someday Judy is the Queen of Thrift Stores.  So is the Husband God Gave Her.  He found a set of 4 pillows for $20, which is kind of high for thrift store prices.  Until you get them home and compare-shop online and find the same 4 pillows sell at retail for $200.  I am impressed.  And she is amazing at what she does with all her treasures.  I tell her that all the time.  I am not crafty at all.  What I buy is what it is and it stays that way.  Ha.

Dear Hubby and our son are planning on taking our grandsons camping this weekend if the weather cooperates.  I don't know if this is true of all State Parks in Michigan or not but at the one they have reservations for, there will be trick-or-treating thruout the park for all the children camping there this weekend.  This is the last official weekend of camping there before they close down for the season.  Is that cool or what?  The more I learn about this state, the more I love it.

And then...on Monday...back to 'real life' again and my busy daily schedule.  This year we have getting Dylan to Kindergarten and home to contend with, too.  But it's in the afternoon, which both of my own children attended as well, and I think that's much better, especially considering I'm going to have to switch back and forth between houses each day.  His school is in his neighborhood.  And I have to spend at least part of each day in my own home for tax purposes for child care.  So back and forth, back and forth.  I am amazed at how many people thru the years have asked me, "Don't they just pay you under the table?  Why do you even claim it?" 

Um...there is such a thing as integrity.  And honesty.  At least there used to be.  And in our household, it's still alive and thriving, regardless of what the rest of the world does or thinks.

Tuesday, September 20, 2011

A Day is a Thousand Years and a Thousand Years is but a Day.....

This is Cooper with our neighbor Bob.  Bob is a man of infinite patience.  If you only had any idea how much Cooper is filling him in on the story of his life up to the age of 3 1/2!  Cooper loves Bob.  Loves him.  And Bob is going to be 90 years old on Thursday.  Unfortunately, I am still on vacation so Cooper won't be around this week to wish Bob a Happy Birthday.  And he'll miss Garbage Day, which is also Thursday.  Sometimes Life just isn't fair.

I spent a day doing touch-up painting on the white woodwork in the house and tomorrow I plan on caulking the shower stall.  Then I think I'll be done with inside home improvements.  I need to do a final weeding before the cold weather hits so I think I'll do that on Friday.  I'm on vacation but I don't know the meaning of sitting still.  I seem to have lost the ability to sit around and do nothing.  And of sleeping in.  But getting up early seems to make a day last longer to me.  Which is funny, considering there are 24 hours in a day regardless of whatever time you decide to get up or an alarm of some sort beckons you.  But I love that feeling of getting up early and knowing I have a whole day ahead of me to enjoy.  Once the sun goes down...well, it's bedtime.  I've been geared this way for so long the only time I can sleep in is when I'm sick, and since I don't like that to happen very often I'm usually up before the birds.

I have never experienced the full four seasons before moving back to Michigan.  Not to say that Oregon doesn't have them, too, but here in the midwest they're each so distinct.  This is the beginnings of my first Autumn here and if what we're having now is just the foretaste I can't imagine what it's going to look like in the next month.  Yesterday Dear Hubby and I were taking a drive and the landscape we were passing by was so beautiful.  Not the riotous colors of brilliant leaves and foliage yet, but the different hues of greens, golds, russets, scarlets, and browns of the earth and the fields.  It was kind of misty across the fields as evening approached, and the old farms and barns in the distance were blurred and softened by the fading light and shadows.  Cows and horses grazed, as well as sheep.  It had been raining hard when we set out but the rains had let up as we headed for home and patches of blue were opening up between the high, billowy clouds.  So peaceful.  I told Dear Hubby you truly do feel as if harvest time is here...you can feel the earth kind of letting out a deep sigh and settling in for a long rest, tucking its covers in and hunkering down to sleep thru the cold of winter.  The life and seasonal cycles keep on; the clock never stops ticking.

Dear Hubby and I took another drive not too long ago.  Further from home.  And we ended up lost down in a holler set back in the mountains.  Very lost.  So I told him to stop when he spotted a person and I'd get out and ask for directions.  We came across a woman in her yard outside of a log-style home set close to a river and as I climbed out of the truck she squinted cautiously at me as I crossed the deserted road, flapping a piece of paper at her.  "I need directions!" I told her.  "We're not from around here and we're very lost."  She let me approach and as I got closer to her she looked like one of those mountain women I've only seen in pictures up until now.  Weathered skin, not an ounce of fat on her.  But beautiful in her own way...you could see the life she'd led etched into the deep creases on her face and around her eyes.  "Whereabouts you coming from?" she asked me.  And when I told her we'd recently moved to the midwest from Portland, Oregon, she looked at me like I'd told her we'd just landed from Mars.  But as I told her where we needed to go she was so gracious and kind and kept calling me "Honey".  She got us pointed in the right direction and wished us well.  It almost made me wish we hadn't needed to leave, that we could have sat with her by the river the rest of the afternoon and listened to stories about her life.  Something tells me she would've been just as fascinated to hear stories about ours as well.

We love taking our meandering drives and seeing what an interesting country America is.  In the past most of my trips outside of Oregon were done in the air.  I'd never really seen or experienced this country of ours firsthand, up close and personal, on ground level.  As we go here and there we're amazed how much diversity and variety there is in the landscape and the people, even if all we travel is a hundred miles or so from home.  And having the privilege to have Canada so close by now, and being able to discover it and our wonderful neighbors there.  I would've never dreamt a year ago I'd be where I am and experiencing what I am now.  It truly does feel like Dear Hubby and I are in some kind of a dream fugue state.

We went on another drive not too long ago, heading out early and driving to a farm town in the middle of nowhere.  We decided to stop for breakfast at a little restaurant on the main street and we were the only patrons there who weren't farmers.  So we sat and ate our breakfast and listened in to conversations and thoroughly enjoyed our morning in Small Town America.  A town where everyone seemed to know everyone else and denim overalls and caps on their heads were the uniform of the day.   There's a feeling here in the midwest I can't quite put my finger on but it's a good feeling.  I feel safe here, enveloped in the America of my childhood.

I know, you're thinking I've lost my marbles.  That I'm living in a fantasy world of some sort.  That my bubble will burst and I'll be horribly disappointed one of these days.  But I got an email from my younger brother the other day and he said, "You know, when you first moved back there I thought the way you felt about the midwest was too good to be true.  But you really do love it back there, don't you?"

Yes, baby brother.  I do.

Saturday, September 17, 2011

Life really IS a gift.


It is a cool cloudy day here in Michigan.  Dear Hubby has gone to meet a new hunting friend near Holly and I stayed home to do the grocery shopping and some reading.  I am finishing up on my second week of vacation.  The first week I did a bit of traveling and enjoyed that a lot...saw some beautiful country.  Why do so many midwesterners complain about how 'boring' this part of the country is?  They can't imagine how we left Oregon behind and settled here.  I don't know what kind of mental image they have when they think of "Oregon".  So few I've spoken to have ever been there so the images they have are most likely from what they've seen on TV.  Yes, Oregon is beautiful but the longer I live back here the less I feel that it has any more to offer than Michigan or some of the other parts of the midwest I've seen so far. 

What do I miss about Oregon?  Our neighbors.  The walks Dear Hubby and I took to the top of Mt. Tabor Park.  The Pacific being only 100 miles away.  I know Cooper misses Nalley's chili...that brand is not available back here so some generous folks 'back home' have shipped some here for him.  Do I miss the mountains?  No, not much.   I thought I would, desperately.  But now that I've grown accustomed to the vast amount of sky back here, I spend a lot of time with my neck craned back, staring up at cloud formations that seem to billow up to outer space at times.  Before we moved  I'd taken the boys to Sweetness Bakery for some of the mini cinnamon rolls they loved.  One of the employees was a young man from Michigan and he told me one of the things I was going to love back here was the beautiful sky.  I didn't know how right he was.  But I do now.

My second week of vacation I've refurbished three pieces of furniture.  It has amazed me how some elbow grease used in sanding them down and then several coats of Old English Furniture Oil has totally revitalized all of them.  I have one more week to go before the grandboys' other grandma heads back for Texas.  I'm going to do some caulking in our shower stall...it could use a bit of freshening up.  I still need to get to the touch-up painting I'd planned on as well.  Right now I'm heading over to the library to see if I can find a copy of "The King's Speech" or whatever it's called.  The one that won all the Academy Awards.  I am terrible on the names of movies.  I'm even more terrible on the names of today's celebrities.  If I met one face-to-face and they preened and bragged about who they were I'm afraid I'd pop their ego bubble big time, haha!  I wouldn't have a clue who they are.

Just a simple day.  Nothing much planned.  Just the way I like it.

Monday, September 12, 2011

The world is round and the place which may seem like the end may also be the beginning. ~ Ivy Baker Priest

What a breezy, beautiful day!  I'm on vacation for most of this month while my grandsons' other grandma is visiting from Texas.  Last week I was gone quite a bit.  This week I'm looking around and thinking of little odd jobs around the house that need to be taken care of but never are because I usually have two more-than-willing helpers to step in and lend me a helping hand.  That doesn't work so well when it's painting or grouting or sanding down an old desk, all three of which I need to do.  I got the desk done today and it turned out very well, if I may pat myself on the back here.  It's a desk I'd inherited from my paternal grandmother when I was 10.  I don't know any history behind it, outside of the fact that it went out to Aberdeen, Washington, with her from New Hampshire back in the 1940s.  Then I got it and it moved to my hometown.  When my family moved to Vancouver, Washington, in 1966 it moved with me to the 3 different houses my family lived in there.  When I married Dear Hubby it moved with me to our first apartment.  Then to another apartment.  Then to a little mobile home tucked back in a couple acres of woods.  Then to a house on the Columbia River flood plain of Woodland, Washington.  Then to a little house in Chehalis, Washington, and to a townhouse apartment in Battle Ground, Washington.  A house in Portland....then to another house where, finally, we settled down for 28 years.  It was probably thinking, "Whewwwwwww!" by that time and figured it would live out its life there.  Not so.  One more BIG move, almost 2400 miles and 2/3 of the way back to New Hampshire with us to Michigan!  As we moved it into our house here I looked at it and thought, "You poor thing!" and decided when I had some time I'd give it a complete facelift.  I have no idea whatsoever just how old it is...but I know it's a lot older than me!  So Dear Hubby helped me take it out to the garage on Saturday and today I spent a few hours very lovingly sanding it down and rubbing about half a bottle of Old English Furniture Oil into its very thirsty wood.  It's a beautiful old piece of furniture...but I had no idea how beautiful until I sanded off years of dirt and grime and scratches.  The burn in the wood from the time a stick of incense I was burning tipped over and scorched it is still there...but those things are 'life scars'.  I look at it and I remember being 16 again.  I wouldn't want to be 16 again, but I don't mind remembering it.  Not much, anyway.

Isn't the internet an amazing thing?  I re-posted yesterday the 9/11 tribute I wrote a couple of years ago for one of the victims who died at the World Trade Center.  I saw her name scroll across the bottom of the TV screen yesterday as the names of all the victims were broadcast.  Eskedar Melaku.  It was such a strange emotion I felt.  I didn't know her personally but I almost feel like I did.  This afternoon I went to check the comments that were waiting for publication on my blog and I found this one:

"Eskedar was my friend since 1st grade. She was one of a kind. I miss her so much. The last time I saw her was exactly one year before 911. Rest in Peace Esku! Miss you some much!"

The person who wrote this didn't leave their name but if they ever come back I want them to know how much I appreciated what they had to say.  Because by researching and reading about Miss Melaku I'd learned that too...that she was one of a kind.  And even tho I never truly did know her, I miss her, too.

Sunday, September 11, 2011

An Ethiopian Flower....


(I originally posted this on 9/11/2009. I have decided that I will re-post this every year on the anniversary, just to keep the memory of this one beautiful soul alive...in my heart, in your heart. In everyone's heart who reads this.)



Here is a photo of a young woman who is now going to haunt me for the rest of my days. Her name was Eskedar Melaku. She died September 11, 2001, at the World Trade Center. She was 31 years old.

She was born in Ethiopia and emigrated to the United States, settling in New York City to attend Queens College. At the time of her death she was assistant vice president of Marsh & McLennan
Cos. Inc., a global professional services and insurance brokerage company, ranked the 5th largest US company in the diversified financial industry. I also found in researching for this blog post that the company was located on the floors directly impacted by the first jet that crashed into the North Tower. It comforts me to know that she never knew what hit her. She was a successful young business woman, but that only touches the surface of who she really was. She was described in the many tributes I've read about her by people who knew her as intelligent, beautiful, radiant, authentic, full of life. Hard working. Kind. Thoughtful. Never a bad word came from her mouth. A beautiful soul whose quiet presence is missed very much. How much she was loved by those fortunate enough to know her. How I wish I'd been one of them.

And they say that the good die young.

Like everyone else on that day, I remember exactly where I was and what I was doing when the attacks on the World Trade Center were taking place. I was standing at my bedside, folding towels before leaving for work, listening to Katie Couric and Matt Lauer on the Today Show on the TV behind me, Katie making some kind of comment like, "What does this mean?" before anyone really had a clue what was going on. I happened to turn to look at the TV just as the second plane was approaching and watched in horror as it slammed into the tower. I remember the icy cold tendrils of shock radiating down my spine, just as I feel them now as I sit here writing this. I never realized how this incident, this horrendous tragedy, would change the 'safe' world we Americans had always taken for granted, how America would never be the same. I said more prayers than I can remember that day, for those who perished and the loved ones left behind. I have said many prayers for them since. None of whom I ever knew personally.

But, now I do know one of them personally. Eskedar Melaku. And I know she'll come to mind on every anniversary of 9/11. And at many other random moments, whenever I hear references to that day. I will see that beautiful smile, those warm eyes. I will remember.

Saturday, September 10, 2011

When life was filled with wondrous
sunbeams, 
with childlike innocence
I grasped at them
and closed my fingers around
nothing but air.
But childlike faith
told me
to reach again.
And again.
And I came away 
empty-handed, 
my fingers filled with
light.

--  by MissKris

Sunday, September 4, 2011

The aging process has you firmly in its grasp if you never get the urge to throw a snowball. ~ Doug Larson

If you go over and click on my Archive link, you'll find that once upon a time I blogged pretty regularly.  No matter how busy or chaotic my days were, I'd sit down and write about them.  Or I'd attempt to put a string of words together and hope they'd make sense once I hit the "Publish Post" button.  Is it because I'm older and I'm beginning to run out of steam a bit now as 60 creeps ever closer that I don't find the time to write as often as I'd like to?  I'll be 58 in a few months and the distance from sitting on the floor to standing upright is getting slower and creakier every day.

Aging is a funny thing.  In our heads --  at least in my head, which is the head I'm writing about here...do we ever age as much as our bodies do chronologically?  I don't think of myself as being old or older.  So it comes as a shock to me when I try to button a button or pop open a pickle jar and find that my hands and fingers don't seem to have the strength and dexterity in them they had only a few years ago.  I bought a Cindy Crawford aerobic DVD a while back and it shocked me when I couldn't keep up...when my muscles wouldn't stretch and work like they once did without any conscious effort at all.  I sometimes catch a glimpse of the skin on my arms that is beginning to get the fine, papery lines in it that I always associated with elderly people.  There are ropey veins in my hands now...no age spots yet, but I'm sure they're coming.  Luckily, for the most part I inherited my mother's beautiful skin and I don't think my face looks as old as it could...it's still pretty supple and not too droopy.  And my hair has been silvery-white for so many years...also inherited...that to see photos of me with my naturally brown hair I had when I was younger is pretty freaky.  Even my Dear Hubby and kids say they can't remember me with dark hair.  But my grandsons only know me as I am now and when they say matter-of-factly, "Gram, you're old!" I have to agree with them.  Somewhere...somehow...it's creeped up on me.

But it's not as scary as the thought of it used to be when I was young.  With age comes grace.  Acceptance. A new way of looking at things.  Experience.  Wisdom.  The knowledge that Life's little blips on the radar screen are just that...nothing to worry and fret and stew over endlessly like I did when I was younger.  It's given me the ability to relax a bit and enjoy life, to smell the roses and watch the birds at the feeder outside our living room window with my grandsons.  To sit on the porch in the evening and let my mind wander.  To enjoy the simple pleasures in life with more appreciation...the fairy-flicker of fire flies on a hot summer nite, the song of cicadas in the trees.  Crickets are a soothing choir that put me to sleep at nite...and lull me back to sleep if I awaken.  And I find myself having the time, the patience, to enjoy rediscovering the world thru my little grandsons' eyes on a daily basis.  I thought, when I was a young mother, that I did the same thing with my own children.  But, sadly, not to the degree I do now.  I know these two little boys will be the last chance I ever have at enjoying the joys and frustrations of caring for children on a daily basis.  Tuesday Dylan starts Kindergarten.  Just yesterday, it seems, I watched him enter this world.

It's bittersweet, yes, knowing that the hour glass is emptying ever faster now.  It's a bit disconcerting to realize I'm not the young woman I once was.  But there is still enough ahead of me that I want to hold on to this ball of wax a little longer.  To dig my fingers in a little deeper.  To savor every moment.

Inland Sunset

Sunsets on Huron are on a land-locked
inland sea.
The surf breathes gently...
it exhales softly on the pebbled shore.
And as I stand
and as I gaze
the water stretches to the horizon.
The curve of the earth
is visible.
The vista seems as vast to me
as that of the Pacific.
Because, 
in all reality,
the water exists only
as far as my eye can see.
And that is only as far as the horizon.

--  by MissKris