Thursday, July 14, 2016

Only in the agony of parting do we look into the depths of love. ~ George Eliot

We are preparing to bid our daughter goodbye.  She's an adult, granted...but no matter how old they become, they're still our children.  And since we've had her with us or near us for almost 40 years, saying goodbye is not easy.  Not easy at all.


She will be leaving by train Monday morning to move back to Oregon.  Out of all of our family's monumental adventure of moving to Michigan a little over 5 years ago, she's the only one who's missed the Pacific Northwest the most.  Being single and working a very physical job on an average of 9 1/2 hours per day, when she's been home on the weekends it's mainly been a matter of resting up for the coming week ahead.  Even tho she likes Michigan she hasn't been able to establish any real friendships because of lack of time and energy.  She went to Oregon on vacation early in the Spring this year and stayed a week with her best friend of many years.  She realized just how much she'd missed her friend and also the beach and other amenities of Oregon.  They'd talked about my daughter moving back out there before, but this time they cemented the deal and she'll be moving on Monday.  She's selling and donating just about everything and will ship only the basics.  My daughter-in-law and I are spending the next few days helping her get everything ready.  She'll stay the weekend with her brother's family to spend some time with her nephews...and then she'll be gone.


Gone.


Sure, there's Skype and texting and all that.


It's not going to be the same, tho.  Not having her nearby.  With just her leaving, it diminishes our small core group of family by one and leaves us with only 6.  I already feel the loss.  My "mother's gut" is feeling sick and my heart is very heavy.  But I can't hold her back.  I can't be negative.  I want her to spread her wings and fly.


Sometimes we have to love them enough to let them go.

5 comments:

CWMartin said...

We'll be praying for her safe move and well being. And for your comfort.

LC said...

I still think of you and your family as pioneers, only east instead of west to "new-to-you" territory. It takes courage to make a change and courage to let an adult daughter fly. You both are women of strength and courage.lessings.

Anita said...

Things change... and somehow, we adjust.
Your feelings are palpable and heartfelt.
May God bless you all. And sincere best wishes to her as she begins a new chapter.

Midlife Roadtripper said...

Peace to you. I understand the wingspread. With one of mine so far away, I miss him terribly, yet I can't deny his need to fly.

Anonymous said...

Been ages since coming to read here again, Kris...we are in Seattle area these last 3.5 yrs, helping my daughter here with her family...and meanwhile our youngest single daughter who lived with us till age 26 still is in NC along with her brother and family...a continent away is not fun!! But we do what we must...and for now we are here. Skype has been a great help I will say!! Wishing you and your family the best!!
Elizabeth