We are preparing to bid our daughter goodbye. She's an adult, granted...but no matter how old they become, they're still our children. And since we've had her with us or near us for almost 40 years, saying goodbye is not easy. Not easy at all.
She will be leaving by train Monday morning to move back to Oregon. Out of all of our family's monumental adventure of moving to Michigan a little over 5 years ago, she's the only one who's missed the Pacific Northwest the most. Being single and working a very physical job on an average of 9 1/2 hours per day, when she's been home on the weekends it's mainly been a matter of resting up for the coming week ahead. Even tho she likes Michigan she hasn't been able to establish any real friendships because of lack of time and energy. She went to Oregon on vacation early in the Spring this year and stayed a week with her best friend of many years. She realized just how much she'd missed her friend and also the beach and other amenities of Oregon. They'd talked about my daughter moving back out there before, but this time they cemented the deal and she'll be moving on Monday. She's selling and donating just about everything and will ship only the basics. My daughter-in-law and I are spending the next few days helping her get everything ready. She'll stay the weekend with her brother's family to spend some time with her nephews...and then she'll be gone.
Sure, there's Skype and texting and all that.
It's not going to be the same, tho. Not having her nearby. With just her leaving, it diminishes our small core group of family by one and leaves us with only 6. I already feel the loss. My "mother's gut" is feeling sick and my heart is very heavy. But I can't hold her back. I can't be negative. I want her to spread her wings and fly.
Sometimes we have to love them enough to let them go.